We bring the entirety of our experience to every situation we encounter. Some situations, of course, will bring forward different parts of our history. Some will trigger things we have long forgotten, but that live within our subconscious. This is what it is to be human. We carry time with us.
To know this is the first step into befinner’s mind. To cultivate the awareness necessary to see how we are being influenced by our past. What is coloring this particular moment? What does it look like if I set that aside?
We can’t help people if we are looking at them through our past. We must develop the ability to be with them now, here, in * this* unique moment.